Staff Writer - Katrin Callender

We wake up and despite all our effort; we still get to work late. We hope that this guy or this girl is the one we’ve been waiting for, and then they offer a deal breaker instead of a dream come true. It seems that too often things get in the way of our success. No one who’s nursing heartache wants to hear Pollyanna trill a happy tune. Nor do they want to see her embrace all the bliss in the world. If ignorance is bliss, then bliss is most definitely ignorance. And if the happy among us want to cheer us up, we rationalize, it’s because they just don’t get it!

Yet, there is some logic behind looking on the bright side of things; as hard as it may be to believe that in our despair. And the bright side may not see us getting what we hoped for. Not yet. We learn from our experiences and

those of others. The things that went wrong went wrong for a reason. Sometimes we blame ourselves. Other times, someone else may blame us. It may be something we’re doing. It may not be our fault at all. But it behooves us to identify the cause. We only get better when we know what is not working for us.

Disappointed West Indian Photo courtesy

It won’t be easy going through our own lives with the proverbial fine tooth comb. We spot the mistakes of others all the time but it’s not only difficult to assess ourselves; it’s downright painful. But the results can make all the difference in the world. Whether it’s a system of doing things, a habit or a person or persons in our lives, we can only make changes once we’ve identified the elements in our lives that need to be altered.

First take note of the things that have gone wrong. Then look at the environment that they took place in. Are there any common factors? Something we didn’t want but permitted? Something omitted?  Someone whose negative energy was admitted? Deep down, we know what is best for ourselves; what will bring us success. So the most important thing for us to do is to identify the things that will lead to the outcome we envision. And we must listen to ourselves. What do you think…?

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