Staff Writer - Kerran Monroe
Have you ever been in a relationship with someone who probably means well but just does not know how or what it takes to be in a relationship? Well I have. During my first year of university I met a guy and we just clicked really well.
I loved how I could talk to him about anything. I like guys whom have the capacity to discuss a wide range of topics, from politics, to religion, to entertainment to sex and this was him. We just discussed any and everything.
We were together for about a year, on and off. During the time we were together, he was also in college but he was in his final year so this meant his work load was a bit heavier than mine. After about a couple months he just stopped paying me any attention and of course that was a big problem because I like attention and I like to talk and if we are not communicating, what sense does it make?
Now I understand you not having anytime for me because you are busy with school. That, I can handle because I am also in school so I know how demanding school can be but don’t you dare blow me off to play Football Manager and watch the English Premier league. I cannot be at your house to spend time with you and you are not even speaking to me, you are instead occupied with a game for the entire time I am there.
What's the point!!
And the worst part about it is that he did not even see what wrong he was doing. He was clueless about it. We broke up about three times before we finally broke up and every time we got back together, it was the same thing, and every time he promised things would be different but of course the only thing which changed was his age and nothing more.
But the reason why things could not be different was because he did not know what to change because he did not know what he was doing wrong and I really did not have the patience to be explaining myself to him multiple times.
So I had to decide once and for all that I would stop doing this to myself and just finally let go, as difficult as it was for me to do, because until he learns that you cannot be in a relationship and be so selfish I would just be wasting my time and hurting myself.
Yea I know persons will probably say that was not reason enough, but what I have learnt is that if you are with someone and you pick up some signs of qualities that you despise, don’t stay there and hope that things will get better and don’t try to change people. They were like that before you met them, so the only way they will change is if they find it worth it and you should not try to prove yourself worthy for them to change for you.
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