Recently I have attended a few health conferences and stress has been featured at each by various healthcare professionals. That is certainly not a coincidence but a reality of everyday life, so it is really good to see it being acknowledged and discussed. Stress was not a word one used to hear mentioned in years gone by but unfortunately it is commonly referred to now and some might wonder what is the reason for that. Stress is defined as a state of mental or emotional strain or tension resulting from adverse or demanding circumstances. Hence anxiety, worry, fret, botheration and tension are all factors that can increase levels of stress.
Several tips have been shared with participants at the aforementioned health conferences and along with others that I am aware, are listed in this my fortnightly Caribdirect.com article. How to recognize and deal with stress can at times be difficult as sometimes the stressed person is not aware of the symptoms associated with this modern-day phenomenon. The life of people in a by gone era was simple and effective without all the distractions and pressures that exist now. Every day stress, work-related stress, stress in relationships, stress in the run-up to Christmas, exam stress, stress whilst coping with a bereavement, stress of planning for celebratory events, stress of meeting targets or deadlines and stress in competitive situations are just a few of an endless list that we have to face and cope with these days.
For example, some people choose to pay for an event planner for weddings/birthday parties and leave that person to organize everything in order that they can remain stress free. What can be annoying and often exacerbates stress levels is when one is reliant/dependent on someone else and they fail to deliver in such a situation. One should always have a plan b or plan c as a back-up in case things do not work out.
Stresses of parenthood and caring for the elderly are so different these days as are being a working parent, juggling family life including the early morning school routine and supervising homework which add extra dimensions to the equation. Social media websites and television constantly bombard us with adverts leading to added pressure for the ‘I want’ society instead of emphasis on ‘I need’.
Laughter is often seen as the best medicine and watching a comedy to get what is sometimes referred to as belly laugh can be therapeutic. Alongside that too is the ability to shed tears instead of suppressing feelings and emotions. Simply put ‘let it go’ by releasing whatever is inside so that one does not end up erupting like a volcano or a pressure cooker. The difference between suppressed and repressed stress is where suppression can sometimes be a good short-term solution as long as one makes sure to address those emotions sooner rather than later. Repressed emotions on the other hand don’t get a chance to be processed and they don’t simply disappear but fester and cause a range of psychological and physical problems. The well-known cliché ‘It is good to talk’ can improve mental health and by so doing counteract stress.
As stated, if not managed properly stress can lead to many mental and physical illnesses and for a start increases ones level of hypertension (high blood pressure) which can have dire consequences on the heart. Should ones stress levels become unbearable there are stress management courses and some are through a referral from one’s doctor. So cognitive behavioral therapy or other forms of counselling are solution focused as coping mechanisms for managing stress vary a great deal and sometimes it might be trial and error to decide which is best since it is not a one-sized glove approach.
Here is some more advice for relieving stress and increasing relaxation:
- Squeeze a soft ball repeatedly
- Burst the bubble wrappings
- Deep breathing techniques
- Pray
- Meditate
- Practise yoga or tai-chi
- Sleep at least seven hours and have a cat-nap in the afternoon. Siestas are common in the Mediterranean
- Have a body massage
- Listen to classical music
- Invest in a water feature or relax by the sea, river or stream where one can hear the sound of running water
- Pilates
- Dim bright lights if connected to a dimmer switch
- Light scented candles and/or aroma sticks
- Have a warm bath
- Switch off electronic devices such as iPad, computers and mobile phones
Sonia my cousin in London sent me below an apt WhatsApp message so placing it here:
Good morning, my brethren in Christ Jesus.
Luke 12:25 “Who of you by worrying stress can add a single hour to your life?”
Philippians 4:6, ” Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.
My brethren, each day, has enough trouble of its own. Stop worrying and start praying and living.”
Stress is still one of the main causes of physical and mental diseases, even killer diseases. But what do we do about it?
Psalms 94:19, “In the multitude of my anxieties (stress) within me, Your comforts delight my soul.” The best remedy is to rest in God’s presence, trusting Him in challenging times.
We must be overwhelmed by His peace and not by our crisis. Stop the life of rat race, and start living by God’s grace.
Do not be stressed about anything. Instead, pray about everything, then you’ll have peace in your heart, mind.
Have a joyful week.
Stay prayerful stay faithful and stay focus.
Rev. Richard Ade-Martins.
Fear of the Lord is wisdom and discipline.