Staff writer - Nyasha Watson
We are a society obsessed with physical beauty and physical appearance.
I am not saying that physical appearance is not important but just let it not be so important that an opinion of someone is formed based solely on their appearance.
I am not going to pretend to be innocent; because most, if not all of us are probably guilty of stereotyping someone because of how they look.
Especially, if they are not traditionally attractive based on Hollywood’s standards. I mean if a friend introduces her partner to another friend and that friend don’t think the partner is particularly attractive.
Then, the first thing that the friend would think and not necessarily say to the friend, unless they are really close: “so you couldn’t find someone that is better looking”. Unfortunately, it is human nature for us to be like that; speaking of human nature. I remember how annoyed some persons were when Lisa Presley and Michael Jackson were romantically involved.
They were actually very shocked and ‘traumatized’ when they publicly made out. In their opinion, it was impossible for Lisa to be attracted to Michael because of his physical appearance.
Classical beauty and the Beast
That is the problem right there. Why is it that we think we know who is to be attracted to whom based solely on their physical appearance.
I thought that one of the most important criteria in a relationship is to have something with each other. Also, one more important element; beauty is subjective.
Thus, if I think my boyfriend is attractive and you don’t think that he is attractive; then whose opinion is more important?
Me, who is in a relationship with the person or you whose only purpose, is to be happy for us. Well in an ideal society physical beauty would have been as important as the colour of Shebada’s eyes.
But we are not living in an ideal society. Thus, if we are more attractive than our partner or our partner is more attractive than us, then our relationship will be categorized as that of a ‘beauty and a beast’.
However, which is more important? To be stuck in an unhappy relationship with Chris Brown or Rihanna or to be enjoying life with… whoever your perfect partner is. While the world is watching and criticizing but never finding the special person… that YOU have found.
Nyasha Watson
