Wouldn’t dating and relationships be so much easier if people came attached with signs which told us beforehand, if they were worth taking a chance on or not? But let’s be serious for a second, when meeting someone with a view to dating them, are there particular things which can signal to us if the relationship will be good? Here’s a list of things to look out for.
- Are they reliable? Do they call when they say they will or are they inconsiderate and cancel dates at the last moment? Talk is cheap – actions always speak louder than words.
- Is a relationship important to them at this point in their lives? Are they relationship ready? Consider if they have the time and energy to give to you. Without time being spent on a relationship it can lead to resentment.
- How consistent are they? Are they really interested in you and what you do, or do they only show interest in the bedroom?
Photo courtesy viz.cwrl.utexas.edu - Look at their past relationships, were they stable and happy? Why did they end? Remember a good predictor of future behaviour is past behaviour.
- What’s their general attitude like, do they have good morals and values? If this is important to you (and I hope it is) listen and pay attention to how they act with you and others.
- Do you feel supported by them? Consistent support leads to feelings of security which is so important for well-being and happiness.
- Most importantly let your conscience be your guide, that little voice inside of us which always lets us know if we’re on the right path or not. Don’t ignore it.
What do you think? Can you think of any more things to add to the list? If you can post a comment and let me know.
